Venting Thread, or FML!

[QueenBex]

SunkistShiek: I've been there, right down to the hail on moving day and a tyrannical landlord (though luckily he wasn't family)! I'll light a candle for you tonight. Hope the worst of it is over for you.

Bex: Oh, man, I wish I'd seen this thread before I saw the Neutral thread. I'm sorry it went poorly! I haven't been on FB for a few days except to respond to notifications, so if there are details I haven't seen them. But I'll light one for you tonight as well. And who knows - maybe a new opportunity will come out of this one!

Starrley: You get a candle tonight, too. Psoriatic arthritis is tough stuff. I've got a close family member who deals with it. I try to remind myself pretty often how lucky I am that I don't have a chronic condition that interferes with my life. The world isn't compassionate to people who don't share that luck.

Do you have enough candles Cade?

No worries, I basically just put up a swear word on facebook and that's it. I feel as though I've been pushed to my knees then kicked in the head. PM you...

[Kareesh]

I just need somewhere to post this, and Facebook isn't a really great place for me to post terribly personal things like this....

Both sides of my family are going through huge stressful times medically. My maternal grandmother has dementia, diabetes, and stage 4 kidney disease. It's getting harder and harder on my grandpa to take care of her, but thankfully they live in a home. It's not quite assisted living (though they do offer it) but there is help there in case they need it. This week has been super duper hard, though. Grandpa's been having problems getting Grandma out of bed, she's been really lethargic, and she's been to the hospital 2-3 times this week. Some of it is due to dehydration (she hates drinking water) but my mom thinks this may be the next stage in her dementia. She has vascular dementia, which means her progression is stair-stepped, not a gentle slope. One day she can be fine, the next she suddenly wakes up and has no idea who we are. Thankfully, she's still retained her memories of us, but she's still not doing that great. We live in central Iowa while they live in central Illinois and it's stressing my mom out big time. Even though my two uncles live either in town or nearby, my mom is the main caretaker.

Also, an aunt on my dad's side was taken to the hospital the other day. At first they thought it was congestive heart failure (which she pretty much lives with. She's a pretty big woman) or pneumonia. She did have some liquid around her heart, and her heart is pretty weak, but the hospital said she would be fine and would just have to come in every 2 months to get it drained. They said that Friday night. Saturday night I get a text from my dad saying she's taken a turn for the worse. They had to put her on a ventilator. They are giving the option to the family if they want to take her off it or not. Again, they live far away; they live in Arkansas.

I hate being so far away from family. I'm a huge family person, and it's stressing me out. My maternal grandparents are the only grandparents I've ever known. It's hard when someone has been a part of your life for the entirety of it, and suddenly it looms over you that they could be gone soon. I've already lost another aunt on my dad's side a couple of months ago. And now I'm totally kicking myself for not going down to the reunion if that would have been Aunt Lucille's last one.

All this on top of the fact that my parents are leaving for Israel Monday for a week. At least they were suppose to. They're waiting as long as possible to see what's going to happen, I think.

I'm emotionally drained....so thanks for listening.

[SofaraStarfyre]

Wow! Hugs to you Kareesh. I hope that you and yours can get some rest even in this super distressing time.

[Yurtle]

I'd like to vent a little, if you don't mind.
I have psoriatic arthritis, which means that I have psoriasis attacking my joints. I have external psoriasis as well. There is a shot I'm supposed to take, and I did for a while. The thing is, one of the possible side effects is developing lymphoma. I just couldn't deal with that, especially since I have small children. I'm okay, but the worst patch is on my right palm, and of course I'm right-handed. It affects my whole life, including my crafting. I hate it. No one wants to hear about it, so I just keep it to myself. But it really bothers me.
Also, and this is not as big a deal, my internet connection has totally sucked lately. It makes me want to punch something, but of course I can't because of my hand.

Both my husband and sister-in-law have psoriasis and psoriatic arthritis so I know what you're going through, at least vicariously! My husband says he feels like an old man at 35 and my sister-in-law is about 80% covered in psoriasis. She was on one kind of medication for the arthritis and actually developed lupus because of it, which is super duper rare and my husband's doctor was shocked when he heard it. She also has young kids but her psoriasis and arthritis is so bad and she needs to take something for it. Sometimes it's a matter of finding the right one for you. The first type of meds my husband took made him sick for 3 days after every dose. He's switched and is now doing a lot better. Anyway, my whole point of saying this is that I'm here for you if you ever need to rant to someone who knows what it's all about!!

[blackmageheart]

@Kareesh - A friend of mine's mother developed vascular dementia and I've watched her go from a lovely old lady to an incredibly forgetful and sometimes nasty individual. It's hard for all concerned. I'll be thinking of your grandparents and your family <3

[cirestan]

Being an Engineer I rarely find out something about one of my projects that I didn't already know.
Yesterday, I found out, inside of a 4 hour beat down by an ignorant customer, that my they are not actually called "drawings".
The proper term is "f**king drawings".
Dude, your machine is broken because you are wrong. Please let me put the correct parts installed correctly into your machine.
:

[anarchyash3]

Being an Engineer I rarely find out something about one of my projects that I didn't already know.
Yesterday, I found out, inside of a 4 hour beat down by an ignorant customer, that my they are not actually called "drawings".
The proper term is "f**king drawings".
Dude, your machine is broken because you are wrong. Please let me put the correct parts installed correctly into your machine.
:

I used to be a third shift manager at a McDonald's. I know exactly how you feel. I had to go to court one time and testify with pictures of a bruise on my chest because I was 'assaulted' with a large cup of sweet tea. People can be so ignorant and I think the worst part is that they think they are right and have ground to stand on and if you want to keep your job you just kind of have to nod and apologize.

TLDR; People suck!

[RMDC]

There is a segment of Western culture that is so entitled that the slightest bump in the road will drive them into a towering fury. I managed photo labs for the each of the three biggest retail drugstore chains in North America (you know, back in the nineties and naughties when people actually had pictures printed), and the customers went ape-nuts if their pictures weren't ready on time or didn't contain what they thought they had photographed. Often they would be understanding when a grand failure happened, like a machine meltdown that set us back for days, but if something small wasn't precisely as expected we would get anything from frustrated yelling to customers coming into restricted areas with sensitive personal, private media belonging to other customers - even into the chemical splash zones on a few blessedly rare occasions - and rooting around. The worst response I saw was when one of my lab employees discovered that an angry customer was stalking her and taking pictures through her windows at home (she found out because her friend worked at the photo lab in the competing chain across town and recognized the subject of the photos). I've never been assaulted physically, but I've had credible threats leveled at me for being fifteen minutes behind schedule due to machine fickleness.

IOW, I deeply sympathize with both of you.

[Hellfire]

We just need a worldwide tell customers what you think of them day. That way because it's a national day you won't lose your job over what you have said.

[SunkistShiek]

And I think the saddest thing about it is that those angry/frustrated/mean/horrible/etc. customers work somewhere. Meaning they have customers of their own. I used to work at a restaurant and a library (a LIBRARY!) that had those kind of people. At the library job, people would try to get out of paying for their fines or say a book was turned in or whatever.