Venting Thread, or FML!

[RMDC]

Haha! Yeah! Sorry for being whiney. It's been up and down for me like a yo-yo in a lift.

I hope you didn't think that I meant you were whiny! Though now on second read I can see how I could have worded it better. My intent was commiseration, not sarcasm or chastisement.

[anarchyash3]

Haha! Yeah! Sorry for being whiney. It's been up and down for me like a yo-yo in a lift.

I hope you didn't think that I meant you were whiny! Though now on second read I can see how I could have worded it better. My intent was commiseration, not sarcasm or chastisement.

I was on the same page! I didn't think it was whiney at all! I am all for a "let's go be kids" club because I'm tired of responsibility. It would be great to sit at home and play video games all day and not have care in the world!

[SheWhoRoars]

Today is my second day at university. Classes start Monday, and my family left yesterday. I'm over four states away from Illinois, in Idaho. The day we flew out here was horrible because I got very motion sick and between flights I had a panic attack. Luckily I got some meds also that totally knocked me out. In that time it had been over 24 hours since I'd eaten, and I was still very tired because the night before I was up almost sick until the wee hours of the morning because of my nerves. My eating schedule still isn't back on track because I'm so tired that every time I eat I feel really sick. Last night I went to bed at 10 and didn't get to sleep until 3 am because I felt so sick and I got the nervous shakes. Today my face got sunburnt, which just added to the sick feelings I have because in addition to being nervous and overheated, now it's making me even warmer. And on top of all of that, I have to go get a new phone because mine won't let me hear people on phone calls, and now the screen keeps blacking out. I was lucky enough to room with two of my friends, but I keep getting the shakes and I just feel like crying all the time, and I just feel like absolute hell right now

[blackmageheart]

Sorry to hear you're not having the best start to university life, SheWhoRoars. It has to be a scary thing to be so far from home and family, but it's good that you have friends with you. Have you talked to them about your nerves etc? I would also suggest you see a health professional in your new area, and make sure you know where you can go if you get really bad. And Sprite Stitch is always here.

[Pyper]

Hopefully you settle in after a few days, the first week can be rather daunting. The most important thing to remember about university is to take care of yourself. If you need time out, take it. You can catch up classes and assessment (lecturers are not that scary - ask for an extension if you need one), and there will be lots of opportunities to socialize. The first week of semester always has a lot of events on, so pick one or two and don't even try to go to everything. Try to get to your first class for each subject, thats where they should lay out course schedule, expectations and tell you when tute signups open, otherwise take it easy and once you get a bit of sleep and food you will hopefully get in the swing of it.

Good luck, take care, and once you feel a bit better have fun

[Eliste]

but I keep getting the shakes and I just feel like crying all the time, and I just feel like absolute hell right now

I'm sure it doesn't feel like it right now, but you're not alone- both physically and mentally. The stress of moving far away, the new pressures of college, the new cycles, even the new timezone- it all adds up. Most colleges have support systems in place for people who are having a rough time, and I would encourage you to look for them and use them. Believe it or not, your friends and probably every other freshman on campus is probably feeling the nerves and fears you are. Some will feel it more, some less. Some are better at hiding it, some less. It will get better and easier to deal with.

Having moved across the world, I know how scary being someplace new can be, and I spent the first 3 days of my move to Ireland in my room crying. Then I went out, joined up with some campus groups that had similar interests, and miraculously started having fun. I know you don't feel like it, but try to get out and meet people. Once you get involved, things will start seeming less scary and more interesting. And remember, there are support groups there for you too.

[SheWhoRoars]

Thank you so much, guys! And yeah, I guess I didn't realize that almost every other freshman here is doing the same thing. I keep hearing people tell their friends that they went home and cried for an hour, which makes me feel better. Luckily I think my sleep might be back on some kind of pattern, and classes start today, so hopefully that'll keep me busy enough to not think about it. Plus, my roommates are apparently the kind of people who, if we're home and the weather is nice, the windows and door is literally open, or at the very least unlocked, so I've been able to make some new friends just from the random people that my roommates know that wander in. So I mean, it is getting better. And I'm sure that I'll love it here in time, everyone else seems to really love it.

[anarchyash3]

Shewhoroars, My freshman year in college I was so scared my first few days. I of course went to community college and got an apartment by myself but I had every single fear in the book. A couple words of advice: the internet is your BEST friend. That could mean skype with your parents if that's an option or just make a couple of friends at college or online that you can skype with or just IM and chat with. It helps a lot. Also buy a stuffed animal to cuddle with. It takes away a lot of that lonely feeling. College is a lot of fun once you actually get into the classes and relax. I still get nervous starting a new term and I'm a junior. It's perfectly normal. Everybody is just as scared as you are. Talk to people make friends and have the time of your life!

[Hellfire]

So that friend I fell out with back in July has suddenly got back in contact having a massive moan over me telling my closest friend from school that we'd had a falling out. Didn't realise that if I was asked if I'd seen her recently and told them no I haven't spoken to her in ages, that I wasn't allowed to say why to my closest friend when asked.
She also repeated that I should change my personality, this time she said and I quote "I think you should change your personality because you can be rude sometimes"
isn't everyone rude sometimes. I think the rudeness she said about is my sarcasm. But it's not exactly anew thing.
She also doesn't like that I'm not smiley all the time and farting rainbows and unicorns.

Think I'll live without people like that in my life.

[RMDC]

Think I'll live without people like that in my life.

And good on you for it!