You already know why you miss him - as you said it's because he was a big part of your life. It may be that it's less him you miss and more the space he previously filled. That space is now empty and you are probably feeling that. I think you did yourself good to get out of the relationship, no kind of abuse is or should ever be acceptable. You are only 21 and there's plenty of time to find someone to fill the space left by your ex. But first you need to take care of yourself and be the person you want to be. Make sure you have plenty of love and support around you, if not family and friends then us here at Sprite Stitch. Kind of clichéd advice but it was the best I could do! PM me any time if you need a helping hand with anything.
Re: Venting Thread, or FML!
Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2014 11:56 pm
by Kareesh
For anarchyash3:
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*hugs* It means a lot that you feel comfortable sharing something so personal with us. I totally understand the whole relief of being out of an abusive relationship. My ex-fiance was the same. We weren't together as long as you guys were, but it took me forever to get over him. I was just a bit younger than you are. One piece of advice that I wish I could go back and tell my younger self, is that it's okay to be single for a bit. Especially when you've been in a long (and especially not-so-great) relationship, you sometimes lose sight of who you are as an individual. Take time to breath, relax, and learn to be okay by yourself.
I, sadly, didn't follow this advice, and so I desperately went from man to man trying to fill that void and trying to make myself feel complete. Thankfully my last leap was to my now-husband, so it all worked out, but I still wish I didn't do some things. Would have made a lot of things easier.
Re: Venting Thread, or FML!
Posted: Wed Sep 03, 2014 5:26 am
by Ally
I have been diagnosed with Temperomandibular Joint Dysfunction. Freakin' hurts, and needs way more pills than it should to keep the pain under control.
Re: Venting Thread, or FML!
Posted: Wed Sep 03, 2014 8:24 am
by rockinwithrammstein
Someone broke into my house. This is the fourth time in two and a half years that this has happened. Usually random weird things will be missing, but this time they took cash. $200 dollars. The scariest part? The money was in my infant daughter's room I've been checking her behavior and checked her diaper first thing this morning to make sure nothing happened. To think that I could be sleeping in the next room and someone was in my daughter's room and I had no idea. I can not wait to not live here anymore. I lived in downtown Detroit and never had this much of a problem. So much for being safer on a military base.
LinkIsMyHomeboy
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I don't really know what to say, so I'll just offer hugs. Like I've told people before, don't take my silence on a matter as me not caring, I just really don't know what to say sometimes.
anarchyash3
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Oof...what you wrote really hits me because before I met my husband I was in a similar situation. Just know that you will be happier now that you're away. *hugs*
Re: Venting Thread, or FML!
Posted: Thu Sep 04, 2014 8:17 am
by RMDC
RWR: That's beyond scary! Is there any way you could set up a security camera somewhere? You can get them for less than a hundred bucks now - still expensive, but sounds like it might be worth it! I'm glad you and your daughter are safe!
anarchyash3:
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The grief process happens for every significant attachment that is removed or fundamentally altered, including traumatic ones. It's the same thing people go through when they return from a terrible deployment, get out of prison, or overcome a drawn-out illness. It's normal and healthy to feel the way you do, and it may crop up again in the future. For now, and if/when you do feel this way in the future, remind yourself that this is a sign that you're in a position to experience normal emotional processes again and that you're okay now and will continue to be okay.
Re: Venting Thread, or FML!
Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2014 8:13 am
by QueenBex
I don't want to be an adult anymore.
I am so tired. Of everything.
This morning was challenging and maybe thats getting to me now...
I feel like running away.
I feel like..............................................
Why can't I just be ok
Re: Venting Thread, or FML!
Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2014 1:51 pm
by RMDC
QueenBex wrote:I don't want to be an adult anymore.
Let's make a "someone else has to pay my bills and do my laundry" club!
Re: Venting Thread, or FML!
Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2014 10:59 pm
by no_need
I feel ya, Bex - I think it gets to all of us sometimes. I know you've been dealing with a lot lately, but I swear it'll pass
Re: Venting Thread, or FML!
Posted: Sat Sep 06, 2014 11:24 am
by anarchyash3
Thanks for all the advice guys! Im feeling much better.
I second the Let's not be Adults club. We can have tshirts made...and then somebody else can wash them when we beg!
Re: Venting Thread, or FML!
Posted: Sat Sep 06, 2014 2:36 pm
by QueenBex
anarchyash3 wrote:I second the Let's not be Adults club. We can have tshirts made...and then somebody else can wash them when we beg!
Haha! Yeah! Sorry for being whiney. It's been up and down for me like a yo-yo in a lift.
I've been checking her behavior and checked her diaper first thing this morning to make sure nothing happened. To think that I could be sleeping in the next room and someone was in my daughter's room and I had no idea. I can not wait to not live here anymore. I lived in downtown Detroit and never had this much of a problem. So much for being safer on a military base.
