Re: Venting Thread, or FML!
Posted: Wed Feb 19, 2014 8:30 am
Lately I feel like I'm being attacked on all sides. My life has become more and more stressful and I'm having a hard time finding joy in things.
Just this past week has been a nightmare, I got into a conversation with a guy I asked out last year after finding out that not only did he never respond, but he told his friends (who I know for a fact talk about me behind my back) about it. So for a year he's been smiling to my face after letting his friends have a good laugh at me behind my back. When I confronted him about it it got kind of ugly, but I thought it was resolved in the end. Nope! He decided to get on my Twitter, (BTW he does not follow my page, so this was really going out of his way) found a Tweet from before I talked to him where I vented about what he'd done without mentioning his name, and got butthurt and Tweeted about it. Freaking childish crap, now I'm invisible to him, which is how I prefer it. He thinks he's such a great guy, but the instant someone tells him he was a jerk he refuses to deal with it.
After all that, there's the matter of my car. My car was acting up and the check engine light came on, so I took it to be looked at. Turns out the head gasket and exhaust were both leaking, so it would be $1600 to get my old car running right again. I had a complete meltdown, and decided to trade it in for a lightly used 200 LE. I LOVE my new car, even though I'm back on car payments and they're a little higher than I would have liked. But yesterday I got stuck in our drive and in the attempt to get unstuck, my AC hose got yanked out and my front bumper got torn to hell. Now my new car is in the shop getting repaired, my new car that I had for 6 days. Seriously.
And then last night, I thought I was finally over all the drama, I was a choir practice for the Producers, I got sympathetic hug from my best friend, and went out to eat with my friends after. BUT, there's this guy who just joined choir who keeps following my friend around and being a creep, and last night he ended up sitting across from me. He kept talking to me and I made no attempt to hide how much I wasn't interested. This guy is married, but he acts creepy around girls a lot. I guess last night was my turn. I tried to just be politely disinterested, then I tried to ignore him, then when he got on some stupid subject while I was trying to follow another conversation I told him flat out that I didn't care. He started going, yeah you do, you think I'm cool. And I was like, really, no, I don't like you, you're being weird and obnoxious, I don't want to be talking to you. He started getting really crappy with me, he tried drawing my best friend in, but BF was being Switzerland, which didn't bother me. Verbally I am capable of fighting my own battles, if the guy physically threatened me, I know I have backup. He started saying that I thought I was so much better than him, and since I'd had it with the conversation I said, yeah, I did, though our means of measuring that were probably very different. He said yeah, have you ever nailed three girls in one night? Then he tried to pass that statement off as a joke, I was seeing red but just reiterated that I didn't like him, didn't want to be in that conversation, didn't really like him hanging around, etc. He then said I was being a real asshole, I said I was sorry he thought that, he said I should be sorry for being an asshole and should be ashamed, I said I was neither, he called me an asshole again, as well as an underachiever (WTF? He doesn't know anything about me other than I'm a first soprano, he doesn't even know where I work) and that I have a lot of nerve. I said I've been told that, and it's something I take pride in. I didn't tell him that people have bulldozed over me my whole life, and I was halfway through adulthood before I found my spine. Later one of my guy friends congratulated me, he said he thought about interjecting, but it seemed like I was on a roll and had it under control. I'm not the only one who has a problem with this guy, the friend he's been following around dislikes him but was trying to cold shoulder him, the guys dislike him because he's a creeper, I was just already at the end of my rope and was ready to just ignore the guy, but everything about him raised my hackles and I just couldn't take it. I do not feel bad at all for anything I said to him, I could have kept ignoring it but I wasn't under any obligation to do so.
It's just another thing that's making it hard to want to be in the choir. The only reason I'm there is to be with my friends, it's supposed to be my stress relief, but lately it's just adding. I'm planning to audition this weekend for a second show, hopefully spending half my time in another group will be a mental palate cleanse.
I am so stressed, I just want to curl up and sleep til spring.
Just this past week has been a nightmare, I got into a conversation with a guy I asked out last year after finding out that not only did he never respond, but he told his friends (who I know for a fact talk about me behind my back) about it. So for a year he's been smiling to my face after letting his friends have a good laugh at me behind my back. When I confronted him about it it got kind of ugly, but I thought it was resolved in the end. Nope! He decided to get on my Twitter, (BTW he does not follow my page, so this was really going out of his way) found a Tweet from before I talked to him where I vented about what he'd done without mentioning his name, and got butthurt and Tweeted about it. Freaking childish crap, now I'm invisible to him, which is how I prefer it. He thinks he's such a great guy, but the instant someone tells him he was a jerk he refuses to deal with it.
After all that, there's the matter of my car. My car was acting up and the check engine light came on, so I took it to be looked at. Turns out the head gasket and exhaust were both leaking, so it would be $1600 to get my old car running right again. I had a complete meltdown, and decided to trade it in for a lightly used 200 LE. I LOVE my new car, even though I'm back on car payments and they're a little higher than I would have liked. But yesterday I got stuck in our drive and in the attempt to get unstuck, my AC hose got yanked out and my front bumper got torn to hell. Now my new car is in the shop getting repaired, my new car that I had for 6 days. Seriously.
And then last night, I thought I was finally over all the drama, I was a choir practice for the Producers, I got sympathetic hug from my best friend, and went out to eat with my friends after. BUT, there's this guy who just joined choir who keeps following my friend around and being a creep, and last night he ended up sitting across from me. He kept talking to me and I made no attempt to hide how much I wasn't interested. This guy is married, but he acts creepy around girls a lot. I guess last night was my turn. I tried to just be politely disinterested, then I tried to ignore him, then when he got on some stupid subject while I was trying to follow another conversation I told him flat out that I didn't care. He started going, yeah you do, you think I'm cool. And I was like, really, no, I don't like you, you're being weird and obnoxious, I don't want to be talking to you. He started getting really crappy with me, he tried drawing my best friend in, but BF was being Switzerland, which didn't bother me. Verbally I am capable of fighting my own battles, if the guy physically threatened me, I know I have backup. He started saying that I thought I was so much better than him, and since I'd had it with the conversation I said, yeah, I did, though our means of measuring that were probably very different. He said yeah, have you ever nailed three girls in one night? Then he tried to pass that statement off as a joke, I was seeing red but just reiterated that I didn't like him, didn't want to be in that conversation, didn't really like him hanging around, etc. He then said I was being a real asshole, I said I was sorry he thought that, he said I should be sorry for being an asshole and should be ashamed, I said I was neither, he called me an asshole again, as well as an underachiever (WTF? He doesn't know anything about me other than I'm a first soprano, he doesn't even know where I work) and that I have a lot of nerve. I said I've been told that, and it's something I take pride in. I didn't tell him that people have bulldozed over me my whole life, and I was halfway through adulthood before I found my spine. Later one of my guy friends congratulated me, he said he thought about interjecting, but it seemed like I was on a roll and had it under control. I'm not the only one who has a problem with this guy, the friend he's been following around dislikes him but was trying to cold shoulder him, the guys dislike him because he's a creeper, I was just already at the end of my rope and was ready to just ignore the guy, but everything about him raised my hackles and I just couldn't take it. I do not feel bad at all for anything I said to him, I could have kept ignoring it but I wasn't under any obligation to do so.
It's just another thing that's making it hard to want to be in the choir. The only reason I'm there is to be with my friends, it's supposed to be my stress relief, but lately it's just adding. I'm planning to audition this weekend for a second show, hopefully spending half my time in another group will be a mental palate cleanse.
I am so stressed, I just want to curl up and sleep til spring.
